Thursday
Eriko attended another tea ceremony class and I switched to my next book. This book is much slower reading, so I wound up taking a nap in the living room. Eriko and I spent time thinking about activities for our reception, and trying to narrow down what the cost of the wedding will be. in the evening the family all went out to yakiniku, which was a lot of fun. it was the first time that Shogo was there so we had six in attendance. i really like yakiniku – a lot of different types of do-it-yourself grilled meat. just my type.

Friday
this was a pretty slow day. i remember taking a few naps (Eriko counted two) and i looked at all four of Eriko’s picture albums. then we (and Aine) went to play practice. the room was much smaller and there were more familiar faces this time, so i didn’t read my book much or nap at all. afterwards, most of the group went to yakitori for a party. it was fun, but a little tiring.

Saturday
we woke up late, as we were out until almost 2. soon after breakfast (i ate more than Eriko) we rode our bikes for lunch at Mos Burger. then we headed to the Nagoya Dome (indoor baseball stadium) in search of a cap of Ichiro’s old Japanese team. we got real lucky and found it. we rode a few blocks down the street to the local community center and a had a fun time swimming for an hour. back on the bikes, we headed in search of something sweet. she took me to a neat shaved ice restaraunt which used fresh fruit. i had grape and she had kiwi. both were yummy. after breakfast i answered questions about my new condo and such for Eriko and her parents.

Sunday
after breakfast and goodbyes, Eriko saw me off at Nagoya airport. our farewells are much more smooth as we both know we’ll be together again soon. and soon it will be permanent. i fell asleep on my short flight from Nagoya to Tokyo and am now using a free internet service (and a java ssh client) provided by Yahoo Japan as i wait for my long flight to Vancouver.

Sunday
arrived at the airport and spent the evening with Eriko and her family. any questions i had about how to bring up our marriage were answered immediately. as soon as i walked into the kitchen, her mom read to me a few sentences she had translated.

Monday
it was Eriko’s birthday and she had a surprisingly high number of things scheduled. i watched her attend a Kimono-wearing class, went to the bank, post-office, and then a tea ceremony class. in the evening the family went out to a familiar Vietnamese restraunt to celebrate Eriko. a little late evening drama.

Tuesday
let the wedding planning begin. Eriko and I spent several hours trying on kimonos and western outfits. she selected two kimonos and a dress; i selected a kimono and a tux. it was fun and i have begun to feel excited and nervous. in the evening we went to Eriko’s play practice. the cast members were very welcoming to me and i had fun. i did take a few cat naps during repetitive scene rehearsal. the cast members will throw a party for me on Friday.

Wednesday
we travelled to Atsuta Shrine, which is where we will be married. it is amazing, beautiful, and foreign to me. we walked around the grounds of the shrine and also through the indoor ceremony room. it should be familiar to Eriko’s family but mine will be quite surprised. we then proceeded to tire ourselves by doing some gift shopping. in the evening Ken’s family came to visit and i played Legos with Kenta. Sakura was ill so the visit was a little hectic but i had fun. Eriko’s mom made onimiyaki which i really like and showed me how to do it as well.

when i am finally at peace with myself, i will die.

i have to wonder whether i really want a PhD in math or whether i’m just a desperado, wishing for that which i don’t have

of course, once my brain starts analyzing a point, it cannot stop until it has come up with some theories. i have two as a consequence:

i like positions of authority: a husband, a dad, a manager, a professor.
i think too much, often confusing myself. i need to focus on subjects with clear cut answers – mathematics. computer science is halfway there, but there are lots of different ways to do things and still arrive at the same result.
if i don’t think there is a clear cut answer, i tend not to think. i just try and feel.