one other thought… i now believe that when Sara told me she wanted to date other people, she may have been trying to to get me to chase her… however, i saw it as my chance to exit, since i had no desire to chase her further…. as i withdrawal from Eriko, if she is indeed the woman for me, then she will feel the desire to chase.only time will tell on such things as this. the neat thing about life, from my point of view, is that it becomes more of what i wish it to be as time passess… hence, live gets better with age – like wine.